My cousin and his wife met 8 years ago. They dated, lived together, and have been married for 3.5 years. During this time, they seemed happy, he took care of the finances while she laid off, didn't really pressure her to take a job, he took her out on dates that would make most women jealous, and they took trips around the world 1-2 times a year. My cousin is pretty laid back, nothing really bothers him, from what I know about them, they hardly fought at all. Likewise, his wife is pretty laid back as well, and together they seemed the happiest amongst all the cousins and their spouses.
9 months ago, she started saying she was unhappy, claiming my cousin wasn't opinionated enough, and didn't take care of the honey-do's right away. They went to couple's counselling, and after not making much progress, the counselor suggested they separate. Now after 2 months of hardly talking and seeing each other, she wants a divorce.
My cousin is devastated. He still loves her a lot, and wants to stay married, but is almost convinced that she will not reconsider, and will go along if that's what'll make her happy.
Talking to his wife, she's can't say anything really bad about him other than he's not aggressive, "man" enough. When I asked why she never brought up any issues during their first 7 years together, she said it's because she didn't want to come across as a bitch.
The cousins are doing what we can to talk her out of it, but she seems pretty determined to get a divorce. It's pretty clear that both of them are avoiders, appeasing or avoiding difficult conversations in order to keep the peace.
From the thread title, I'm pissed at the counselor because I think separating was the wrong thing to do in their circumstance. There was no physical abuse, they weren't really arguing either. Like I said in the previous paragraph, both of them avoid conflicts, and instead of talking and working out their differences, she wants to call it off completely, and he's going along with it.
Any of you have suggestions? It kills me to see my cousin so depressed like this.